Debra, a former client, telephoned and said, “I woke up this morning and thought, Sandra will know what is wrong. I need to call her.” Fifteen months ago, Debra had called me to help her pass her consulting job interview and upon completing that project she was looking for her next opportunity. “Please analyze my voice again because I have not gotten past the first telephone job interview for the last three interviews. It isn’t because I am unqualified”
”Since the early “70’s the percentage of adults in the United States reporting that they are chronically shy, such that it presents a problem in their lives, had been reported at 40%, and in the recent decade it has increased to 50%”, states Dr. Zimbardo, founder of the Shyness Clinic at Stanford University www.shyness.com/shyness-clinic.html.
How Hidden Messages in your Voice Stop your Career.
Sarah already had been told by her new CEO, what message her voice was sending. It was hidden to her but not to her all male team and the new CEO and indeed the sound of her voice had put her career on the line. The new CEO had hired an independent firm to conduct a thorough review of everybody’s performance and as a result, Sarah’s job was in jeopardy, even though she held a powerful position and her knowledge and expertise were indispensable. Why?
Jim, who was in his ‘30’s, was told by his boss that his co-workers were afraid of him because he always sounded angry. This news came as a huge shock to Jim, who told me that this seemed to come out of left field and he couldn’t believe it. “I never argue with my co-workers and I always do my best to cooperate and be helpful”. Why do they think I sound angry? What is it about my voice that sounds so angry to them?
Harold an Episcopal minister lamented that more than one member of his congregation was nodding off. “I really admire the Baptist ministers whose congregations shout out ‘Amen’ during the service. How can I speak with more passion”?
I remember sitting in this huge church listening to my childhood minister’s voice. It was low pitched and resonant and the sound flowed over me like a strong, gentle wave that inspired me to open my heart to his message.